abusive parents

 i need to vent sooo avoid this  if this subject is triggering for you.

its okay to forgive an abusive parent

its okay to forgive and hate them

its okay to forgive and love them

its okay to have a good relationship with them.

its also okay..... to not forgive them

its to okay to not forgive and hate them

its okay to not forgive but love them

its okay to no longer have a relationship with them.

i belive this type of abuse is the MOST painful

many kids go through this but wont acknowledge that the parent was abusive and instead call it "tough love" which is just wrong

ik everyone heals at their own rate but you ABSOULTETY cannot heal from your childhood trauma without acknowledging where it came from and WHO it came from. you need at least ADMIT IT YOURSELF. you dont need to tell anyone but just admit it to yourself that it was them who hurt you.

you wont be a bad child for doing that. it wasnt your fault it was THEIRS even if you feel bad and understand them, using their feelings as an excuse is not okay. 

i was abused as child(wont say who) did that make it okay to take it out on my classmates? you may say "thats different your not family!"

so does that mean i could take it out on my younger siblings then? NO the answer is NO. 

is it okay to take your anger out on anyone? no its not! so why would it be okay to take it out on your own kid? your traumatizing your OWN KID.

 please STOP making excuses for them! you can try to think of reasons BUT THEIR IS NO EXCUSE TO ABUSE A CHILD. the biggest reason why they did that to you is because they expirenced it themseleves usually from a parent. thats the number one reason why they abuse there kids, there were not unfortunatlety strong enough to break the cycle, but YOU CAN BE.

and to those who say its was needed, there are many people who are good, nice and kind people that do not have childhood trauma. you dont need that to grow or to be strong ITS NOT A GOOD THING. 

if u think it it i feel bad for you...

all it does it make you mature faster then you need to, thats not a benefit!

im not saying you need to hate your abusing parent, you can still love them but cmon lets not be delusional and act like "it was a good thing" or that "it didnt happen" and etc because that is FAR from true.

you can love them but acknowledge their flaws, THEIR VERY EXTREME FLAWS at that.